Luchadora!

by C. Mirriam Pascual

Una mujer luchadora no se queda en el piso cuando cae; busca la forma de levantase a pesar de las circunstancias que le toque vivir. Una mujer luchadora no tiene tiempo para rencor ni resentimientos, sabe perdonar y pedir perdón, aceptar sus defectos y los defectos de los demás.

Una mujer luchadora sabe cuidarse y cuidar de los suyos. Es atenta y sonríe a menudo aunque aparentemente no tenga razones para sonreír.

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Image Courtesy of Stockimages/FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Una mujer luchadora recibe fuerzas interminables y nadie se explica cómo pudo hacer tantas cosas con poco recursos. Una mujer luchadora sabe apoyar a otras mujeres en necesidad porque entiende la soledad y lo que significa sentirse agobiada y cargada de responsabilidades.

Todas conocemos mujeres luchadoras y aunque a veces no le demos su merecido meritos las admiramos cuando vemos que salen adelante y que no se dejan rendir por las adversidades. Nos alegramos con sus logros y cuando alcanzan sus metas.

En la comunidad Latina existen muchas mujeres luchadoras, mujeres digna de admiración mujeres que no saben que significa la frase “no se puede”. Ellas aparentemente pueden estar solas y parecer que lo tienen que hacer todo pero cuando uno las conoces a fondo, se dan cuenta que tienen una fuerza invisible que las sostiene algo que le dice a su corazón ¡tú puedes!, ¡Tú debes y tú lo vas hacer! Cuando ella sienten esa fuerza en su corazón entiende que aunque parezca imposible ellas lograran sus metas.

Mujer, busca esa fuerza en ti, abre tu corazón, déjate inspirar y confía que tu puedes y veras que lo lograras.

¡Mujer luchadora a ti te decimos mira hacia adelante, tienes nuestro apoyo.

Mi Amiga la Alemana

by Deyanira Martinez

Mi amiga la Alemana
Mi amiga la Alemana

Mi amiga, Rosa Maria, es una talentosa, bella  e inteligente ejecutiva en unas de las compañías más importantes del país. Rosa posee una personalidad encantadora y una exótica belleza, su piel canela y sus ojos y pelo oscuro acompañados de un cuerpo voluptuoso la convierten en blanco de las miradas masculinas. El único problema en la vida diaria de mi amiga, es que a pesar de su inconfundible ‘look’ caribeño y se su apellido ser Ramírez, ella jura que no sabe una palabra de Español y  que es cien por ciento Alemana.

Las personas en la calle la detienen a preguntarle direcciones en Español, los meseros en los restaurantes se acercan a tomarle la orden en Español, y muchas personas se aproximan a ella a conversar en Español, como es de esperarse por vivir en una ciudad como Nueva York con una gigantesca  población Latina. Rosa se asombra y enoja y explica no entender porque la constante confusión.

Tratando de calmarla, le explique que la confusión se debe probablemente a que su apellido es Ramírez y que realmente su parecido es increíble al de muchas de las chicas Puertorriqueñas que conozco. Note que se quedó callada y puso una cara de contrariedad.

Con ojos  llorosos, mi amiga me confeso, que en realidad era Alemana, que su madre era rubia de ojos azules, pero su padre biológico era Latino, que no lo veía por muchísimos años, y que la relación con su padre era una parte de su vida que prefería no recordar. En ese momento entendí muchas cosas: ese aire de superioridad, el rechazo a sus origines, y como repetía constantemente su ascendía Alemana.

Después de meses de conversación, de largas secciones de Spanish  101, de confesiones y lágrimas en medio de shots de Tequila, pero más importante aún después de Rosa haber encontrado un galanazo latino como novio, ella ha comenzado a identificarse y a aceptar que su belleza exótica es su mayor atractivo, que toda la vida la confundirán con Latina, mi querida Rosa ha comenzado el largo proceso de descubrir su cultura y amar ese lado desconocido que la persigue por siempre.

She’s a Warrior!

by C. Miriam Pascual

A she-warrior does not stay down when she falls; instead, she seeks ways to rise above the circumstances she lives with.  A she-warrior does not have time for bitterness or resentment; she knows how to forgive and how to ask for forgiveness; therefore, she accepts her faults and the faults of others.

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Image courtesy of Photostock/Freedigitalimages.net

A she-warrior knows how to care for herself and her family. She is attentive and smiles regularly even when the world does not understand her reasons to smile. A she-warrior receives energy, an endless unforeseen force. No one knows how she accomplishes so much with so little. A she-warrior knows how to support other women. She understands loneliness, and what it feels like to be overwhelmed by countless responsibilities.

We all know she-warriors. Although we don’t always give them the merit they so deserve, we admire them when they forge ahead. We are overjoyed and feel pride when they reach their goals despite all of their adversities they face.

In the Latin community there are countless she-warriors, women who deserve our admiration, women who do not understand the phrase, “you can’t do it”. These women can appear to be alone, or bear heavy burdens all by themselves; however, when you begin to accept a deeper knowledge of these women, you realize that they possess an unforeseen energy and force which sustains them. This force speaks to their heart and reminds them, “You can!”  “You will!” and “You should do it!” When she feels this in her heart, she realizes that although it may seem impossible she will achieve her goals.

We all need to seek that energy. Open your hearts, let yourself be inspired, and trust that you can!

She – warrior forge ahead. You have our support!

Juan Gabriel Abarrota el Madison Square Garden!

by Deyanira Martinez

Durante casi 3 horas Juan Gabriel hizo estremecer las paredes y los techos de la arena de uno de los escenarios más famosos del mundo: El Madison Square Garden de la ciudad de Nueva York.

El Divo de Juárez, como lo conoce su público, se presentó anoche en un concierto a casa llena, donde llevo a un público frenético por un viaje a través de su larga carrera musical, interpretando éxitos como “Querida”, y “Hasta que te conocí”.

Un Juan Gabriel visiblemente emocionado luego de una ausencia de 7 años de los escenarios norteamericanos, canto a todo pulmón las canciones preferidas de los fans. Sexy y súper atrevido, se despojó de su chaqueta, se anudo la camisa en la cintura y se adueñó por completo del escenario y de los aplausos de sus fanáticos.juangabriel2

Este artista demostró junto a su orquesta de mariachis y bailarines porque es y seguirá siendo uno de los artistas mexicanos más queridos y famosos de todos los tiempos.

Un espectacular concierto donde el público canto y bailo las melodías del famoso “Noa Noa” hasta altas horas de la noche.

 

Five steps to become a happier you

by Deyanira Martinez

We have all heard people say that happiness is a choice, and that you are the one in control of your own life. Unfortunately, with the chores of daily living it is easy to let yourself get dragged down by that black cloud called ‘depression’ and its closest allies: discouragement and apathy.

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Image courtesy of Photostock/Freedigitalphotos.net

So, I decided, along with you my Bella’s Fashionistas’ readers, to choose happiness, and put in the work to become a happier version of myself by following these simple steps:

1) Get Rid of Regrets:We have all made mistakes, and will continue to make mistakes, but we don’t learn anything from constantly blaming ourselves. We cannot go back in time and change what has been. Peace of mind is more important, than any past mistake. So instead learn from your mistakes, by surrendering, and allowing God to work his magic.

2) Take Care Of Your Body: Your body is a temple that you must love and care. Avoid junk and sugary drinks (yes, you are what you eat). Become active, and drink plenty of water. Enjoy the beauty of silence; we all need quiet time to listen to the answers of our problems and struggles.

3) Be Grateful: Count your blessings. Make a list of all the good and positive things in your life; you will be surprised by how long this list can be. Gratitude is the key to feeling blessed.

4) Be Comfortable With Whom You Are: Do not compare yourself with anyone; you’re a unique and special person and you have the talent and ability to go as far as you want.

5) Be Optimistic: Always expect the best regardless of the circumstances. Have joy and exude positive energy. You’ll see how positive statements attract miracles to your life.

Every day is a new opportunity to start fresh and be happy; have love, health, abundance, and everything your heart desires.

 

It’s a Full Beauty Circle

by C. Miriam Pascual

On my way to a Dominican salon, very early one Saturday morning, an interaction between a two year old and her mom caught my attention. The toddler, fascinated, watched her mom’s every move as she applied her make-up. She used her small hands to imitate her mom’s actions, and giggled every time her mom caught her  acting out the steps. It was a very precious moment. At the end of the make-up session the little girl was rewarded with her own tube of clear lip gloss. She squealed in delight as the gloss touched her lips…of course she immediately licked it off- but in her mind she now looked just like mommy.

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After witnessing this interaction between mother and daughter, it occurred to me that most of us learn beauty secrets from our mother, sisters, cousins and friends.  My younger cousin likes to tell the story of how she first learned how to use make-up, amongst many other things, from me as we were growing up. To see how well she turned out I am glad to have been the person she wanted to emulate, and learn from.

When I had young daughters of my own, I too played the make-up games with them and they too were also in awe of mom and her products. Now that they are adults they teach me how to really use make-up. They even provide me with make-up tips. It’s a full beauty circle.

Does Fear Hold you back?

by Deyanira Martinez

Have you been in a business meeting when all of sudden your boss asks an important question, and you immediately start to sweat? It is not a surprise that most men in this situation raise their hands and are ready to volunteer a response steadily and with confidence.

Women, on the other hand, want to know the subject in depth and be 100 percent sure of their answer before they proceed to raise their hands and express their opinions. If this is true, then it is easy to see why by the time most women say they are ready to take over a new job, or accept a promotion they have, in reality, been ready for years.

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Image courtesy of David Castillo Dominicci/Freedigitalphotos.net

So why, when there are so many smart and educated women all over the world, do we continue to hold ourselves back today? Why, in 2014, are women still accepting to earn seventy-seven cents per every dollar a man earns? Why are women taking on the roles of both the primary breadwinners and primary caregivers to their families, yet don’t have the courage to demand equal pay or pursue higher ranking positions? This inequality, and gender gap, is even wider in Latinas and women of color. From my experience, it seems we women tend to beat ourselves up for both the things we do and the things we don’t do, and for the things we say and the things we don’t have the courage to say. That is a lot of negative self-talk, and self-sabotage.   Here are some of the reasons, and helpful tips to combat this cycle of negative thinking:

1. The Good Girl Curse: We are raised, especially Latinas, to be good, polite, pretty, and obedient. We were told not to rock the boat, and have this need to be ‘liked,’ and ‘accepted.’ Unfortunately, we bring our ‘good girl’ mentality to the workplace.                  Tip: Accept that not everyone is going to like you, and as you move up the ladder the chances are that even less people will like you. Stop being a people pleaser.

 2. The Impostor Syndrome: When you become successful, you begin to have feelings of self-doubt. You feel like an impostor, and you are afraid that people will find out that you are not that smart or not as qualified as you should be for a position.                       Tip: Know that you deserve your success, you are smart and no one is waiting for you to fail.

3. The Weeds Of Fear: This is the root of so many problems – “Don’t let fear rule your life.”                                                                                                                                                Tip: Chica go for what you want, face your fears, and keep moving forward. Si se Puede!

4. The “I’m Sorry” Broken Record: Do not apologize! Most men do not apologize, instead they move into problem solving mode right away, sometimes without ever acknowledging that a mistake was made.                                                                                  Tip: Constant apologies will not resolve the problem, instead look for solutions.

5. Speak Up: Studies confirm that women do not speak up as much as they should, and usually avoid discussing confrontational issues.                                                                     Tip: Don’t wait to be given permission to voice your opinion, because in a room full of men, you might never have a chance. 

Amigas, stop holding yourself back by believing that you are insufficient, or incapable. This simply is not true! There are billions of dollars out there to be earned, thousands of high positions and recognition. There are people who have all of these things, so you can have them all too! We need to play this game like the boys do.

Don’t downplay your achievements; you have the latent, the vision, and the intelligence. Go for it!

Sin Temor a los tintes de pelo con Healthy Look de L’Oreal

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by Karen Rosario

Les cuento chicas que en Diciembre del 2012 me teñí el pelo con un color dorado, oficialmente entre al mundo de las rubias….claro no naturales jajaja….el caso es que a la medida que el pelo me crecía, se veían las raíces con mi color de pelo natural marrón oscuro y el resto del pelo con el color del tinte que me aplique. En esos meses estaba en búsqueda intensa de trabajo y como toda mujer sabe para las entrevistas de trabajo debemos estar impecable y la imagen es primordial en estas ocasiones, no luce profesional o apropiado que tengamos raíces de una pulgada del color oscuro natural de tu pelo y  lo demás de otro color; pues pensando y pensando me dije “ Karen la mejor elección es utilizar un producto de color de pelo que no sea permanente”……En esos días visite a unas tías y ellas tenían revistas de bellezas, pues leyendo la revistas encontré la respuesta a mi problema, les hablo de Healthy Look Creme Gloss Color de L’Oreal Paris, el color solo dura 28 lavadas además de que acondiciona y da un brillo espectacular a tu pelo.

Pues leí en las instrucciones del producto lo mas importante para una mujer que esta algo dudosa de …Aplicar color al pelo!!!!  – Si chicas, todas sabemos que seria una pesadilla que algo le pasara a nuestro pelo así que me sentí mas segura ya que el producto es libre de amoniaco, no es permanente y proporciona brillo…..pero les cuento, fui a la tienda, compre el color de 3 Darkest Brown/ Expresso con la idea de cubrir el color dorado del resto de mi pelo e igualarlo al color de las raíces, pues llegue a mi casa me lo aplique según las instrucciones y debo contarles que huele bien, no como otros productos que tienen un olor casi insoportable  y lo mejor de todo cubrió perfectamente todo mi pelo, no quedo rastro del tinte dorado que tenia, me quede asombrada de  como este producto que no es permanente cubrió mis raíces y el resto del pelo del color dorado Wao!!….Además de que el acondicionador que viene en le paquete te deja el pelo brillante…….a mi me fascino el  Healthy Look Creme Gloss Color de L’Oreal Paris, se los recomiendo!

A Place for the Curvy Women

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by Yohely Salazar

Nestled in the Lower East Side of Manhattan is a new little secret of curvaceous proportions. Curvaceous K is the brainchild of seemingly shy but fiery and fabulous Latina, Kathy Sanchez, and is a one-stop shop for really some of the most fashionable and fierce plus size brands out there.  A New York native, in one of the most culturally diverse cities on earth, Kathy recognized the lack of diversity in stores in not only plus size fashion but fashion in general.

The Curvaceous K Boutique is a beautiful example of physical diversification, and lends its voice to the discourse on what it means to be beautiful and “fashionable” in our modern world today.  Entering the boutique and browsing around you notice that you are not in a “traditional” plus-size store, with the typical shapeless silhouettes.

Curvaceous K is a place for the curvy lady who not only wants to look fabulous but also wants to feel good in her curvy skin.  Whether you are in your 20s or 40s, Kathy offers everything from gorgeous accessories to sophisticated, sexy, flattering and fun casual and semi-formal wear from designers such as Queen Grace, Jessica Simpson and many more.  It is a Curvaceous K-ingdom for Curvy queens!  A place full of life and color the curvy and plus-size gal can stand out in the most beautiful way possible!

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